Embracing the dark feminine energy is letting go of what we have been told as little girls. Most of us grew up in societies where we had to act/ look a certain way for the male gaze. Learning to tap into this power shows us how to actively embrace the shadow self. Get in touch with what was repressed, boldly claim your space and be your true, authentic self. The dark feminine energy is embodying a successful, well-spoken, independent, confident woman. She learns to say no, she learns to stand up for herself and to act/dress how SHE wants to. Just because this energy is “dark” does not mean it’s scary. For centuries we were conditioned to fear the night and dark, but this is the divine feminine energy. Embrace your shadows, befriend your demons. This is a true W.I.T.C.H – woman in total control of herself 😉
your inner child
Ohhhhh, good old shadow work!! This term has been thrown around everywhere on social media lately, so what exactly is it? Shadow work deals with healing the inner child, that’s right, that younger version of yourself. Go dig through those old photo albums and find a photo of that 5 year old self…there she is! How cute! Every time you are mean to yourself, you are hurting her. Every negative relationship, friendship or trauma you have dealt with, has all led back to hurting her. Many of us ignore and suppress our inner children. Through this inner work we learn to acknowledge, heal, nurture, and parent ourselves.
journaling & shadow work
Shadow work can be done through journaling prompts, meditation, or even therapy (if you can support that service). In all honesty, whatever calls to you most is the practice that is best for you. If you don’t like journaling, feed your inner child by spending time in nature. View the world from a child’s perspective. Children light up about the smallest things. Look at the trees in awe, be captivated by the clouds in the sky or the tiny bugs hidden amongst the grasses. Play with your inner child this way.
For those who enjoy the journaling route, here are some prompts to get you started. First, identify what you want to work on. This could be a variety of things including self love, confidence, or even just general childhood/ relationship traumas. Next, type into Pinterest “shadow work prompts for BLANK [healing inner child, self love, etc…]” or something along those lines. Find a quiet space (in nature is best) to reflect on these, write, and FEEL the emotions that come up. It’s all about observing and finding any patterns/triggers you have, then reprogramming your subconscious mind. For example, if that little girl grew up without a father figure, maybe now she craves male validation (even if it’s not the good kind). Realize this and show her that she is worthy of a slow, passionate, healing divine masculine love by LOVING YOURSELF <3
learning to let go
Release what no longer serves you. A W.I.T.C.H is completely unbothered. She does what she wants, when she wants, with whose wants. Cut off those toxic relationships that no longer serve you. When we cling on to the past, we show the universe that we are unworthy of moving forward in life. With so much clutter of the old, how will we make way for the new? Surround yourself with positive, uplifting people. Learn to let go, simply flow, trust the universe and your own divine intuition. Whatever is meant for you, is already yours. Stop trying to control everything. The universe is your best friend and will always have your back.
Some physical practices of releasing the past could include chord cutting ceremonies and aura cleansing. Meditation, smudge sticks, crystals, and much more can aid in this. In the shower or fresh bodies of water (lakes, rivers, oceans etc) I like to repeat the affirmation:
“I release any negative energy or entities and
I call back all my energy to me now cleansed and purified.”
self acceptance
Learning to accept yourself means embracing your deepest shadows, healing old ways of thinking/ patterns and befriending your demons. How beautiful is it that you have incarnated on this planet at this time. Love yourself and all of your quirks and imperfections. When you hug yourself, you are hugging that inner child.
Falling in love with yourself!! That’s the key. If you aren’t able to love yourself, why would any one else love you back? Show the universe you care for yourself, and you attract someone who cares for you the same way. Remember – you receive the energy that you are. Self care is going to look different for everyone, but here are some practices to get you started:
- mirror affirmations: say out loud 10 things you love about yourself (even if you don’t mean it, over time you are convincing yourself that you are hot AF)
- subconscious reprogramming (play self love affirmations while sleeping or in the morning)
- take yourself on dates, buy yourself flowers
- develop a skin care routine, take baths, pamper yourself often
- tap into your intuition and learn to trust yourself
the art of seduction
Seduction is not just about pleasing a man, it’s about holding your energy in a mysterious, sexy way. A huge thing to realize is how these energies are all connected. Kundalini energy = life force energy = sexual energy = the divine/dark feminine energy. Therefore, learning to embody and use your sexual energy will evaluate your consciousness. Despite what society sees as “taboo,” embrace the sacral charka through these practices:
- walk into a room with your head held high
- practice good posture
- set aside time to mediate and work with a jade egg, practice g-spot orgasms and explore your body
- learn to say no and stand up for yourself
- dance around in your room to some sexy music
- wear whatever makes you feel good
- practice confidence (fake it until you make it baby!! – no one is born confidence, it takes time, patience, and trust)
- remember you are THAT GIRL and tell yourself this daily
- you ARE the main character
music, movement & meditation
Especially as women, we store many emotions in our hips and hearts. It is crucial to move the energy through the body. Some great ways to clear this stuck energy is through yoga flows, going on walks, dancing, weightlifting or whatever makes YOU feel good. Physically moving and feeling stronger will amplify your confidence as well. One of my favorite practices and ways to raise my vibration is through music. Turn on a dark feminine energy playlist and dance around naked in your room. Listening to these empowering tunes while twerking (YES TWERKING!!) will awaken the sacral chakra and creative energies. Lower body movements and swaying those hips can aid in bringing you into the dark feminine energy.
Practicing opening the heart chakra is beneficial as well by loving all beings everywhere (including yourself and all your flaws!!!). Great techniques are journaling, meditating, and heart chakra yoga flows.
Meditation is always a great practice to throw in because hey, we all need to calm our minds! These spiritual practices will aid in eliminating lower vibrations such as self doubt, worry, and suppression. Focusing inwards will allow your intuition to come through as well. The dark feminine energy works with our higher selves, spirit guides, and angelic realms. It’s all about trusting you are divinely guided and protected on this planet. Manifestation through the law of assumption can also come in to play…but that’s a whole other topic for another time! Some affirmations/ mantras to start you off are:
I am worthy of a life full of peace, abundance, and happiness.
I love and accept all parts of myself, even my shadows.
connecting with mama gaia & your cycles
This is perhaps the softer side of the dark feminine energy. Learn to love, respect, and appreciate our great mother. She is amazing and beautiful just like you! Spend time in nature to reconnect with your truest self. Hug a tree, go on walks barefoot, frolic in the fields. You are an embodiment of the divine feminine energy and mama Gaia is an extension of you. Everything is one. Your body’s cycles reflect those in nature and are one with the planet. As above, so below. Learning to cycle sync can help you to be more in tune with your body. Allow time to flow and be gentle with yourself in order to heal <3
final thoughts …
The divine femine energy is programmed in us to be feared by society, when in reality it is beautiful. Women are powerful beings, with the ability to birth new life into this dimension. In a world where we are taught to be suppressed, go against the grain. Be bold, wear that outfit that makes you feel good, be 100% your true self and don’t apologize for it. Let us embrace our shadows and feel what it’s like to be a woman. Let us say F U to anyone who tells us what to do. You are stunning, hardworking, funny, outgoing, successful with AMAZING personality and body. OF COURSE everyone wants to either be you, or be inside of you ;). Embrace this dark feminine bad ass energy. As you step into your true power, the world and those around will you begin to shift for the better.
much love, peace & vibez 2 u & all beings everywhere
-EC <3